Thank God, a long time ago somebody made staying sober so simple “don’t drink and go to meetings”. I know for certain their is nothing easy about that AND it absolutely is that simple.
I seem to seek the complex and avoid simple– it must be because if something is simple I have less excuses for not doing the work and putting in the time.
I have a business coach I talk with every Wednesday. He’s a master at shutting down my bullshit and pulling out of me what I already know and just don’t want to commit to. The more we talk and I blabber on and on about my complex ideas and big goals and huge tasks ahead of me he regularly interrupts me and clarifies the simple in everything:
“Dude, your making so much more out of this than you need to. Let me make this much simpler for you: if you want to loose weight, run more, eat less. If you want better family life, turn off the tv and show up. This business isn’t hard. You don’t even need to be smart… it simply requires awareness and discipline. Zero smarts necessary, in fact in your case that may be a hindrance”
I hated him for this for a moment but I pay him $8.33 a minute so I didn’t express my feelings.. instead I took a breath and accepted the simple truth. My negative reactions at first are a clear indicator to me I need to take a harder look. Truth is, I can boil all my successes down to a extremely narrow and focused activity that, without it, I’d have gotten nowhere.
Awareness and Discipline. I can’t think of any situation that doesn’t boil down to this.
“Discipline” is a difficult word for most of us. It conjures up images of somebody standing over you with a stick, telling you that you’re wrong. But self-discipline is different. It’s the skill of seeing through the hollow shouting of your own impulses and piercing their secret. They have no power over you. It’s all a show, a deception. Your urges scream and bluster at you; they cajole; they coax; they threaten; but they really carry no stick at all. You give in out of habit. You give in because you never really bother to look beyond the threat. It is all empty back there. There is only one way to learn this lesson, though. The words on this page won’t do it. But look within and watch the stuff coming up-restlessness, anxiety, impatience, pain-just watch it come up and don’t get involved. Much to your surprise, it will simply go away. It rises, it passes away. As simple as that. There is another word for self-discipline. It is patience.” from Mindfulness in Plain English by Bhante G.