There comes a time in every mans life when he arrives at the conviction that he must take himself for better or for worse as his portion; That though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till.   ~ Emerson

The Four Steps to self-reliance:

1) Assume responsibility

2) be informed

3) know where you are going

4) Make your own decisions

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