Some people tell me they feel sorry for my kid based on my parenting. I have never been the guy who celebrates her every win… her being awesome, kind, doing well in school, giving back to the community and greater world… I just have always basically considered that a standard, I’m very proud of it but it’s also a requirement around our house.
Don’t get me wrong, I praise her and love her and celebrate her compounding greatness in the world.. but I do think we tend to over celebrate our kids sometimes and so I’ve worked to find a healthy middle path.
I was talking with my friends, all parents, recently about the state of our kids and the celebrations and praise we see being bestowed on them. It’s almost a delusional state we put them in and I believe it’s a contributing factor to what appears to be a growing culture of entitlement.
One of the parents sent me this shortly after our discussion:
Make the ordinary come alive
Do not ask your children to strive for extraordinary lives. Such striving may seem admirable, but it is a way of foolishness. Help them instead to find the wonder and the marvel of an ordinary life. Show them the joy of tasting tomatoes, apples and pears. Show them how to cry when pets and people die. Show them the infinite pleasure in the touch of a hand. And make the ordinary come alive for them. The extraordinary will take care of itself. ~ The Parent’s Tao Te Ching